We make a storm in a teacup, transforming a small problem into a drama.ĥ. We think that the pain, anguish and suffering we experience for a living event will never pass.Ĥ. Let negativity attack us, so we end up seeing the whole world in gray.ģ. We focus exclusively on the loss and we are unable to see the chances that we still have in our favor.Ģ. We act as the character of the story every time that:ġ. Five signals that we are losing the perspective But if we are unable to turn the page fast, we can fall into our own trap and condemn ourselves to the unhappiness that we are trying to avoid by immersing ourselves in a vicious circle of rumination. To worsen things, it has also been noted that negative events are more resilient in memory than good ones.Įverything seems to indicate that our tendency to focus on what is negative is due to the fact that we try to collect as much details as possible about what happened to avoid suffering again in the future. Participants won or lost the same amount of money, but the anguish caused by the loss was much greater than the joy that accompanied the win. This is clearly demonstrated by an experiment conducted at Carnegie Mellon University. In addition, bad impressions and negative stereotypes are formed faster and are more resistant to change than good ones. Negative emotions, painful events and unpleasant comments, have a greater impact than good ones. As a general rule, we think more to unpleasant events than to happy ones. Negative emotions usually involve deeper thought, so the information is usually processed more in-depth regard to situations that generate positive experiences. Indeed, it has been seen that our brain processes the positive and negative information relatively differently. Some people assume adversity from a more positive perspective, but most focus more on the negative events and remind them more in detail. In other words: we make a storm in a teacup. And, as a result, we turn into the architects of our true misfortune, maximizing a problem that could have been very small compared to what it became. Though this story may seem unlikely, even close to madness, the fact is that we often behave like the man of the story. With this idea in his mind, obsessed with the death of one of his cows and thinking that nothing would ever be like before, he led the rest of the cattle to the cliff, to death. He always thought: Why did it have to happen to me? What is the meaning of having all these other cows? – Then he thought, – What a disaster! My flock is incomplete -.Īs the days passed, he began to overlook the rest of the cows.
In the evening, when the man counted his livestock, he realized that a cow was missing. However, one day a group of hungry wolves attacked one of the cows and devoured it.
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